Cecil I can’t believe you left your niece with Carlos and his team of scientists and not expect anything to happen.
For MOGAI/LGBTQIA+ Day of PoC Night Vale Week!!
Featuring: Queer couple Mayor Dana and Intern Maureen, Cecil and Carlos (kinda), and (most importantly) trans Janice.
Warning: fire, eye strain (bright colors)
I’d rather you not reblog my art than remove my comments, thank you.
Here are some dogs enjoying Popsicles.
the reason i chose to add that to that post is because i felt like it lumped people’s experience with mental illness and trauma together, in the idea that everyone wants to reach this certain point and that everyone wants to reach this certain ideal, which, from what i know from personal experience and from the experiences of my friends, isn’t true.
what recovery means for one person isn’t what it means to another. someone at a particular stage of recovery can be perfectly, wonderfully happy and content to remain at that stage, while another person can only be happy once they engage in the full path of the recovery cycle. and, again, what it IS that the recovery cycle really consists of will ALSO vary from person to person, because, see —
some people want to forgive and forget. and that’s valid, and that’s okay. some people hold onto their resentment, and don’t forgive, and use their anger to fuel their motivation to move past it and become better; and that’s valid, and that’s okay, too. whatever works for that person. and if someone refuses to try to recover, refuses to attempt to or refuses to move from the place they were in 2010, it’s really none of my goddamn business. but what i can do for these people is make their lives a little easier, when i can, because what harm does it do me? it falls on my shoulders, as the person who is further down the path of recovery & health, to be objective and understanding towards the people who aren’t, because i’m the one with the capacity to. i don’t have to get personally involved. but i don’t have to try and force upon them an idea of a concret goal that they maybe don’t want to or literally can’t achieve. again: how they view themselves and how they want to live their lives isn’t my problem. as long as it’s only affecting them and not harming others, you know? i guess is what i’m trying to say here.
I think tumblr has left a lot of us emotionally stunted. This is a great community for empowerment, catharsis, or coping, but those things aren’t recovery in and of themselves. Comparatively, they’re easy when compared to the painful self-reflection and real-world scenarios you’ll have to encounter on the road to true recovery. Not only does Tumblr not focus enough on recovery, but there’s almost a disdain here for the very notion.
There’s a lot of time spent validating everything. “Your symptoms are valid! Your responses are valid! Your depression is valid! Your coping is valid!” Well, yeah, all that stuff is definitely valid, and understanding that is important step in recovery, but it’s certainly not the final step. All that stuff is valid in the same way a baby chewing on a teething ring is valid, and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about if your recovery is still in its infancy, but Tumblr almost encourages you to stay there, to never grow out of it.
There’s a difference between what’s valid and what’s healthy, what’s best for you. I recently saw a post that validated people who stay in their room all day. Is that a valid response to anxiety? Sure. Is it a healthy response? Hell no, and there isn’t a person on Earth who can convincingly make the argument that the best thing you can do for your anxiety is to never leave your room.
Or how about those “how to care for a _________” posts? They’ve got some great tips there, and a lot of what they say is true, but you cannot reasonably expect people to coddle your issues, insecurities, or self-perceived inadequacies. Your recovery has to come from you. It has to be a difficult decision you make with yourself and carry through with because you need it. Your recovery can’t come from hoping other people will validate you.
No one should be ashamed of where they are in their recovery process, but there’s also no reason why you should be in the same place with your issues as you were in 2010.
Your final goal is not validation. It isn’t empowerment. It isn’t finding a way to get through the day. It isn’t being comfortable with your problems, nor is it accepting that they’ll never go away. The final goal is health. The final goal is happiness. The final goal is contentment. The final goal is recovery.
there’s so much in this post that’s so true, and so valid, but i can’t help but point out that the goal of “health” is subjective, and that saying it that way is a little ableist assuming that the ideal objective at the end of someone’s recovery cycle is to be or pass as neurotypical, which isn’t true for a lot of folk!
it’s important to prioritize recovery and self-motivation to improve oneself, but also equally important to realize that, for the people who literally CANNOT get better (i’m look at those of us with physical disabilities, chronic illnesses, or mental illnesses/disabilities that they’ve been managing for years and years and years), or for the people who have reached a healthy plateu in their recovery process — that that’s okay, too, to realize a personal objective of what “ideal” health means to you. i literally do not care if someone with anxiety doesn’t leave their room, because that’s their coping method and not mine, and i won’t tell them how to handle their own personal experience with that issue.
but, what IS good about this post — and why i’m reblogging it — is that it encourages people to try. try to recover. do your best. look for help. don’t stay in your room all day if you don’t want to. don’t stay in your room all day because you think you don’t have any other choice. those are what’s not healthy, and that’s what recovery is for. the final goal IS contentment, whatever it is that contentment means for you.
INFMETRY star projector.
I really genuinely want this.
Oh, this is cool, but I bet it’s one of those insanely expensive things I’ll never be able to have in a million years.
Some assembly required, but it looks fun to assemble. AND THOSE RESULTS HOLY CRAP
Yep, added to my wishlist, for sure!
$22?!? I know what I want for Christmas this year…
Gnarly waves right?
Bruh jus fuckin shredded sum gnarly waves dude yuh gut nuh fuckin idea brah
I’m so proud to be part of Fangamer ♥ Attract Mode this year! I hope you can go to this awesome expo-party during PAX Prime!
It was so rare to find a partner to trade pokemon at that time where I live, that when I found it, it was instant love. Also I want to commemorate Gameboy’s 25th anniversary ♥ love ya lil block.
hey everyone! this is only ten of the fourteen dragons in my lair that need to go to kind, loving homes. they’re all up and listed in the auction house at the moment, so please swing by and pick one of my darlings up if you’re interested!
you can take a gander at all my little babes up for sale here. prices are always negotiable!
bill ci the triangle guy